The free-for-all atmosphere can be particularly overwhelming to the average single woman because, taken as a whole, straight men tend to be more proactive about liking and messaging women on dating sites and apps. If you are not into sports, in particular, baseball, then you missed the story about Jared Porter and how he harassed a female reporter through texting and texted her lewd photos of his junk. This is another problem that women face on a daily basis as they put themselves out there on dating apps as well as social media.

There was a study done recently that found 80 percent of the men and almost 50 percent of the women reported receiving a “dick pic.” 90 percent had received one without asking for it. “This includes 90.7% of women — 90.7% of heterosexual, 91.3% of lesbian, and 90.8% of bisexual women — and 87.1% of men — 88.1% of gay men and 82.1% of bisexual men. heterosexual men primarily send unsolicited images of their genitals to women in the hopes of receiving either similar images or sexual interactions in return. But the new findings suggest that such images rarely provoke the intended response. Women of all sexual identities reported predominantly negative reactions. The researchers found that 50% of women who received unsolicited genital images reported feeling “grossed out” and 46% felt “disrespected.” There’s a lot of work that needs to be done in the communication world, and one of them is the fact that men think this behavior is still acceptable in 2021, when women clearly are trying to tell men to stop behaving in this fashion. When will they finally listen?

While now it might be hard to imagine a world without this virtual matchmaking, in reality these apps are still fresh, which means that studies into the impact they’ve had on our mental health and the studies that have been done over the last five or so years are starting to show that these dating apps don’t bode well for mental well being. Research by psychologist Barry Schwartz in his book, “Paradox of Choice,” has shown that even though we like having more options when making a decision, we are less satisfied with our choice the more options we have. ( which was written in my first book FYI) For users confronted by this seemingly overwhelming array of options you can understand why a reluctance to settle may develop, especially when a new round of matches are only a swipe away- which is the reason for people staying single longer and not getting into a commuted relationship. What dating apps do to singles is that, instead of allowing a connection to happen organically they worry about making a mistake or missing out on the one when the one could be right in front of them. In other terms, singles are looking for perfection which does not exist.

Look for the Release of “Relationship Impossible” May 28, 2021